Having a family together is something that we had dreamed of since we were dating. We hoped to have biological children, and we also felt that foster care + adoption would be in our future at some point as well.
As of now, we have 2 biological boys, and we are in between placements with foster care.
Over the years, we have been on a journey of intentionally aiming to becoming more whole as individuals and together as a family. We have thought, prayed, researched and are continuing to learn what it means to be whole parents and raise whole children, all apart of a whole family.
To be WHOLE means to be complete and unbroken. Of course, throughout life we experience a range of things that can cause trauma, brokenness, and hurt. The beautiful thing is, we can heal.
We believe that a loving, safe, open home environment creates space for healing and growth. So, what does this mean for our familiy? In order to be a whole family, we need to focus on some key areas:
-Mental / Emotional Health
If there is one area that is a little out of sync, it can affect every one. Taking time to reflect on how you have been, how you are doing, and how you can grow is an incredible step in overall health and wholeness. Be willing to look for resources and education on how to grow in each of these key areas. Teach your kids how they can nurture these areas as well! We can lead by example; if our children see us taking good care of our whole selves, they will be more likely to follow along and implement healthy rhythms too.
Some of our favorite rhythms include us parents waking up before the kids as much as we can in the mornings. It helps us get our minds right, have time to meditate or pray, and get things prepared for the day. After the kids have woken and had breakfast, we typically go for a morning walk together. This helps us get outside in the fresh air and move our bodies. We try our best to nourish ourselves with healthy and whole foods throughout the day to regulate blood sugar levels and for mood support. We also eat dinner as a family most nights of the week and use that time to catch up and talk about our highs and lows. It’s such a nice way to connect with each other! It’s important to us that we share our spiritual life with our kids, so we pray together and also include the kids in big life decisions we make.
We don’t have to be perfect to be whole. We just have to be willing to try, learn and try again. Every day is a chance for growth!