Before we even got married, we had many conversations about our future family including kids we would adopt from foster care. We have had several close family friends adopt children through foster care, and we saw ourselves following in their footsteps.
Fast forward to 2018- We had been married for several years and had 2 biological boys of our own. We were watching an online event put on by some dear friends and one of the topics that the speaker shared on was foster care and adoption. The speaker had his wife and kids (some of whom were adopted through the foster system) and they shared some of their story. They then shared the urgency for families to open their hearts and their homes for kids in need. We were both a weepy mess- a good kind of mess- but our hearts were awakened in a way they hadn’t been before. For the next several weeks we continued to grow more confident that our time was coming soon to open our home as a foster family. We talked to our kids and we all agreed that this was our next step together.
It took about 9 months to take all the necessary classes and go through the approval process. Once we were approved, we got a call later that week about a 5 day old little girl. We ended up saying “yes” and we picked her up that day. We were told that it was a likely adoption situation, but like all things regarding foster care, there are no promises. We loved her as our own; she was such a joy to have in our home. We had her for 10 months and then she was transitioned to a loving biological family member’s home. Of course our hearts were broken, but we are thankful to be able to still keep in touch with her and her family.
Being a foster parent comes with all the feels. It takes you to the highest mountain tops, and also to some pretty low valleys. It’s not about what we can gain, it’s about what we can give. We are here to bridge the gap for families who couldn’t do it on their own. Whether the children reunify with biological family or end up getting adopted, we are loving these children for however long they are in our care as if they were our own flesh and blood. As foster parents, we have the privilege to offer love, safety, nourishment, and stability that these kids might not have otherwise received. It’s not always easy, but my goodness it is a beautiful chaos.
Currently, there are over 437,000 kids in foster care in the United States. 118,000 of those kids are waiting to be adopted. More than 23,000 foster care youth age out of the system every year and many end up homeless.
If you are interested in learning more about how you can be a part of the solution, contact your county’s social services organization or find a local foster care / adoption agency to get more information. All you need is a safe loving home and an open heart. Together, we can make a change that impacts an entire generation!
If you are local to Orange County, San Diego, or Los Angeles, reach out to us directly via email at firstname.lastname@example.org to get involved!